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The Heartache Series: Keep Sharing Your Story

By 11:44 AM

It took me a few days to talk with others about the breakup. I think because (1) I kept thinking my fella' would finally, somehow "come to his senses" and show up at my house announcing: This is crazy! I love you. I will always fight for you and us.
                Ha ha ha. Ohhhhh, me and my silly girl heart.
                Needless to say, that did not happen.
                Such announcements only come from a brave love.
and (2) I wanted to hear my own feelings and conclusions before absorbing the opinions of others.

After a few days, I told my family and a couple of my closest friends. A week later, I talked to a few others. More days went by, and then I'd catch up with another friend or two.  In the end, I find that sharing my story with those that know me best has marked the beginning of confirmation.

When I ended things, I wasn't ready.  I wasn't prepared to make that call. I'd considered it before, but I wasn't actually ready to cross over.  And yet, in this one clear moment, I found myself saying breakup words. Phrases fell out of my mouth that surprised even me.

Sharing my story, over and over, has helped my heart catch up to my mouth.  Sharing my heartache story has brought confirmation that this was (and is) the best decision.  And though I still find ways to doubt that conclusion (daily), the votes have been tallied. The love I had was good, but not a brave one.  He is a kind man, but his love for me is not courageous or sacrificial. And this type of love doesn't warrant white knuckles--- I mustn't cling to it.  This love doesn't justify battle--- for who wants to fight for love alone?

Sharing my story forces me to recognize things my heart has long resisted.  So, if you are heart broken.... I challenge you to keep sharing your story. Let others in. They'll have words of wisdom from their own experiences; they'll share their devastating stories and it will encourage your heart in some twisted way.  Perhaps you have loved ones who will challenge you to believe that God has something better.

My friends and family are helping me lay down my doubts and pick up confidence (that this man is not for me). This does not stop my heart from loving. This does not end the heartache. But I believe it could be the first step in that direction.

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